If a man doesn't grow in his career or business, he creates conditions where his wife is forced to share the stressful burden of providing for the family.
Having a happy relationship is expensive.
A very unpopular and very uncomfortable thought for a lot of men.
But I genuinely believe it, and here’s why:
If a woman HAS to provide for the family financially and carries that stress, she suffers, and it becomes hard for her to respect her man.
That means the job of providing for the family falls on the man. For one person’s income to comfortably cover life’s expenses, that income has to be high.
So if we, as men, don’t grow in our career or business, we create conditions where our wives have to take on the same stressful burden of providing for the family that we do.
I’ve barely ever seen a happy family running on that model.
Some people, reading my posts about female irresponsibility, concluded that I want women to do nothing at all. That’s not true.
Every person can decide for themselves what to do with their life.
Most women, even without an official nine-to-five, still do an enormous amount to keep a home running. That is work every bit as important as a man’s job in an office.
It’s worth clarifying: I’m talking about situations where a wife works a job she doesn’t love just for the paycheck, to help feed the family. That’s the specific situation I consider harmful to a healthy relationship. If a woman is building a career or a business because she genuinely wants to and chose it freely, everything will be fine.
If both partners are working jobs they don’t love for modest money, they simply have no physical resources left to build a real relationship and spend time together.
So for us, as men, there’s a simple fork in the road. Either we grow in our work and our finances grow with it, or we risk running into problems in our family caused by financial stress.
That’s why I say having a happy family is expensive.
This isn’t about buying happiness with money. It’s about the fact that finances give us free time, the ability to rest, a smoothly running household (when other people help us), and new experiences.
A solid income lets us stop constantly thinking about survival and focus on what actually matters in our lives.
So the desire to build your career and your business, the ability to bring more value to the market than other people do — that is a direct path to more harmonious relationships.
Money doesn’t solve every problem, but it does solve a significant share of them.
And yes, I understand that in our country not every profession lets someone earn well. There are plenty of teachers, security guards, janitors, drivers — a long list. If you work a job like that and you and your family are content with it, I’m genuinely happy for you. Honestly.
Everything I wrote above also doesn’t apply to soldiers, volunteers, clergy, charity workers, or anyone else who has dedicated their life to a higher good. To everyone who has consciously given their life to serving others, I can only say a huge thank you.
If you don’t fall into those categories and you’re currently dealing with financial stress and want to get out of it, that’s exactly what I want to help you with.
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Continued in part two, where I talk about those who haven’t started a family yet.
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