A Successful Man Is a Happy Wife

In many families a woman gets real attention three times a year: Valentine's Day, March 8th and her birthday. Why that will never be enough.

Do you like March 8th? (In Ukraine it’s International Women’s Day — flowers, cards and gifts for every woman you know.)

On one hand, I’m glad that on this day many women get a heightened level of attention from their husbands and sons. Lots of warm words, lots of flowers, lots of presents.

On the other hand, it makes me a little sad that in many families this is how a man treats his woman 3 times a year: on February 14th, on March 8th and on her birthday.

I think that to build a good relationship you have to try to find time for each other every day (even 20-30 minutes). Or at least plan a couple of hours for each other on your “family day”.

You are unlikely to neglect your relationship with the woman you love for 362 days a year and then really fix and compensate for it in those 3 days… Of course it’s better than nothing, but it’s hardly enough to make the eyes of the woman you love shine with happiness.

I often repeat that for me personally a successful man is a happy wife. It’s a phrase I first heard back in 2017, and since then I’ve been convinced of its wisdom hundreds of times.

I’m well aware that many psychologists and coaches will tell you that a woman’s happiness depends only on her, that nobody owes anybody anything, that a woman has to take care of being an interesting and balanced person herself. And I agree with much of that.

But here’s the thing: the moment a man does everything to make the woman beside him happy, she naturally starts wanting to make him happy in return. It really is that simple.

When a woman (like a flower) receives attention from her man (sunlight and water), she blossoms in every sense.

Living with a happy woman is so easy and comfortable that if men tried living for even six months in the mode of “How can I make her happy?”, they would never want to go back to their usual level of relationship.

It’s like moving from a Mercedes into a beaten-up old Daewoo Lanos.

Even from a purely rational and self-interested point of view, making your wife happy is a hugely profitable investment of resources and time. The returns on such “investments” exceed the boldest expectations.

Instead of constant conflict and tension you get a relationship that fills you with meaning, motivation, joy and inspiration. You want to come home and spend time with a happy woman.

I have to honestly admit here that I don’t manage to make Nastya happy and joyful always and 100% of the time. I make mistakes in our relationship too, and I ask forgiveness for them. Work and new projects often absorb me so much that Nastya gently reminds me she’s missing me.

We work on our relationship together. And if I’ve understood one thing over these years of married life, it’s that the happier your wife is, the more successful you are as a man.

That’s why it matters to give attention to the woman you love constantly, not on a few special days.

So — do you like March 8th?

Do you agree that a successful man is a happy wife?