A person lives life in one of three positions: author, victim or observer. Here's how they differ and what being the author of my own life means to me.
A person can live their life either in the position of an author, or in the position of a victim, or in the position of an observer.
For me, the author’s position is when we take 100% responsibility for our own life and try (with God’s help) to solve our problems ourselves.
The victim’s position is the opposite of the author’s. For a victim, someone else is always to blame and circumstances are always stronger than they are. No attempt to change the situation is even made — but there’s plenty of grumbling and accusation.
The observer usually takes a slightly proud position: “I’m above all this and I simply don’t want to play this game. I’ve stepped out of the rat race and I’m just watching all of you scurry around while I deal with deep and eternal things.” Most often, observers have no serious influence on the world or on the reality around us.
For me, being an author means building your own life and using the gifts and talents God gave you. Trying to influence the situations you’re not happy with. Fighting, even when the odds aren’t in your favour. Making attempt after attempt and constantly learning.
An author is someone who wants to make the world around them a little better. They care. They value their time and try to use it wisely rather than just kill it on idle entertainment.
An author has a vision of the future and a plan for how to get there. At some points along the way, their map and compass may turn out to be irrelevant to the current situation. Then you have to honestly and calmly admit you were wrong, reassess and move on with a corrected course.
Do you see many people around you in the author’s position? Or more victims and observers?
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