One idea keeps millions of people from building a happy relationship, and pride is what blocks it: if my relationship isn't happy, I'm doing something wrong too.
There is one thing that keeps millions of people in Ukraine from building a happy relationship with the person they love.
It sounds like this: “If my relationship isn’t happy, it means I’m doing something wrong in it.”
When I explain this idea to my clients at the start of a consultation, most of them try to convince me that the whole problem lies not with them but with their husband or wife.
By the end of our conversation they understand that the cause was and still is inside themselves, and that in 99% of cases the person you love acts like a mirror. You give love, warmth and care — you get them back. You give resentment, anger and disappointment — those come back to you too.
But to accept this simple idea you have to say goodbye to pride and admit that in a relationship we don’t know everything and sometimes act foolishly.
A lot of people aren’t ready for that. Being right inside your own head feels better than being happy. People cling stubbornly to their convictions, even when the price of that “rightness” is a broken family.
Do you agree with this? Do you believe that if your relationship isn’t happy, part of the responsibility is yours too, and not only your partner’s?
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