Women often say they're glad their man "got it out of his system" before them. Here's the practical reason that memory of past partners works against a couple.
Sometimes in online sessions women say about their partner: “I’m glad he had a lot of women before me. He’s had his fun, and now he’s ready for a serious relationship with me.”
I have to disappoint them: it isn’t a good story at all.
Even if we set aside the moral and religious argument, there is a purely practical one. It’s called memory.
If a man had 35 women before you and you’re number 36, how satisfied do you think he’ll be with sex with you when his memory is crowded with images and situations tied to his previous partners?
You can’t rewind the past, and what happened happened. But it’s worth knowing that the wilder a person’s sex life before marriage, the harder it can be for him afterwards to be content with one specific woman, even if she’s a firecracker in bed.
Over time, of course, past sexual experience fades and moves into the background, but that process can take years.
So there is a point in not spending yourself on casual sexual encounters. That short pleasure is followed by very concrete long-running consequences that many people won’t like.
Do you agree that a wild sex life isn’t a very wise story?
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