Routine pushes feelings aside and a couple slowly turns into flatmates. On the habits that bring warmth and closeness back into a relationship.
In many relationships there comes a certain period when feelings and emotions somehow move to the background, and what’s left is routine, household chores and the ordinary everyday.
Our body still demands at least some dopamine, so in these circumstances people simply start living separate lives and looking for the primitive pleasures available in that particular day.
The man and the woman go to different rooms, stare into the screens of their gadgets, eat their own treats, arrange their own leisure and their own emotions, and move along parallel routes. The couple has fewer and fewer topics to discuss, and the answers of the person they love become more and more predictable.
Time passes, and at some point people begin to realise that they have drifted far apart and have become flatmates rather than a family.
What do you do in circumstances like these?
Our life is made of all kinds of habits.
If the scenario above looks like your situation, it may be a sign that the right habits haven’t been formed in your relationship.
- Instead of quality time together there’s the habit of staring at the phone.
- There’s no habit of always speaking to each other with respect.
- There’s no custom of meeting and seeing each other off at the door.
- There are no shared hobbies that interest both of you.
- There’s no habit of going on dates.
This list could go on.
Forming new habits will take some time, but once you do it, you’ll see how quickly the coldness and the distance between you turn into warmth and emotional closeness.
Do you agree with the idea that our habits run our life?
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