Reputation, a house, a daily text — all of it grows in one direction only. If you build with one hand and tear down with the other, nothing moves.
I’ve written about how a person can live out 1 of 3 different scenarios: the tragic one, the troubled one, the harmonious one.
To some people thoughts like that seem slightly idealized and naive. As in: we all live in the material world, where living your life in harmony is more of a pretty idea for social media than a scenario for real life.
Let’s look at a few simple examples.
A person does the right things where their reputation is concerned. Keeps their word. Doesn’t deceive anyone. Always acts decently. Thinks about their client’s interests and takes care of them. If a professional stays true to their principles for many years, at some point they build a name for themselves.
And you start hearing people say about them: “First we work for our reputation, then our reputation works for us.”
It follows logically that the price of such a professional’s services will grow, and so will their client base.
Another example.
A person decided to build a house. They drew up a design, brought in an architect, studied all the information they needed themselves so it would turn out well. They started assembling the resources and the construction crew. And then we watch new floors appear, brick by brick.
It follows logically that this house gets bigger, more functional and more beautiful with every day.
I, for example, have now written and published a text every day for 75 days straight. Naturally, more and more people read my thoughts and wait for these evening posts.
You could give any number of examples like these, but the main idea is very simple — our decisions accumulate. The good ones as well as the bad ones.
If we make wise decisions in life, and we do it for long enough, then today we are “harvesting the crop” from the choices and the actions we made many years ago. Our health, our marriage, our finances, our spiritual level, our reputation are simply a reflection of the decisions we made earlier.
In the example I gave about the house, some people (metaphorically) build a wall during the day and then bulldoze everything they built flat at night.
They go to the gym to feel healthier and lose weight, and then drink 3 bottles of red wine over the weekend.
People publish a lot of content and build an audience, and then advertise sports betting and casinos.
In marriage, people go to a family counselor on Monday and on Wednesday shout a bucketful of grievances, irritation and mutual accusations over each other’s heads.
If we are building something with one hand, we shouldn’t be breaking it afterwards with the other. Because that is exactly the troubled-life scenario I wrote about in the previous post. We dig ourselves a hole and then “heroically” try to fill it back in. What for?
For our life to become more harmonious, we need to make the right choice over a long stretch of time and stick to it.
And then we begin to feel that every year the flywheel of the right decisions we made earlier works harder and harder for us.
And then we genuinely see that our life is becoming happier and more interesting. It’s simple math. In our life, everything accumulates.
Do you agree with the idea that over time a person’s life can get better if they do the right things?
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