"Who can stay quiet longer?" is a strange game where both people lose. Why the first one to apologize isn't the guilty one, but the wiser one.
A lot of couples, after a fight, go quiet for days and stop speaking to each other.
They’re playing a game: “who can out-silence whom?” And whoever speaks first and starts apologizing has “lost.”
From where I stand, that’s strange logic.
The one who apologizes and moves toward reconciliation isn’t always the one at fault — it’s the one who is wiser, the one for whom the relationship matters more than their own pride.
Staying silent with the person you love so they’ll figure it out and come asking for forgiveness is like refusing food and water so your body will get stronger.
Couples who talk openly about their problems become healthier and stronger. Silence is a 180-degree different process.
Do you know couples who play this game? Are they happy together?
P.S. In the photo, Nastya and I are listening to a seminar. But my facial expression is a perfect match for a sulking husband, so I’m using it for this post.